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The role of a life coach
People usually come for coaching when they are in the Fall period. And most of the time, they still are in Summer for many aspects of their life, but let’s say their work is unsatisfying (there is no more challenge) or with a relationship (my friend says I don’t listen) or they just feel something is going wrong without being able to put their finger on it. The coach’s role is to help them to find what needs to change, to define appropriate goals and ways to reach them without damaging the satisfying aspects of their life.
Though he will explain a concept like “what is an objective?” when it is necessary, the coach does not provide direct answers. Even though he asks questions and guides his client on how to use certain tools (problem solving techniques, self inquiry exercises, etc.) a coach is not a judge who decides what is good or wrong for his client. On the contrary, he knows that his client is the only expert of his own life; only his client can decide what his good for himself. Therefore, a life coach is not a therapist. His client is not in psychological distress; he is completely in control of himself.
All this questioning and problem solving phase corresponds to Winter. The buds on the branches are hints, opportunities for the client to grow. One could think that the coach is like a gardener, but he is not. The client is the gardener. His coach is more like a gardening good spirit who provides guidance on keeping the rest of the tree in good shape, while the gardener decides how to shape a particular branch on his personal tree of life. The coach will continue to work with the client throughout the Spring phase, while some branches still need special attention, in other words, until the client is comfortable with the change.
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Note: The metaphor about the tree of changes through life came to me while I read about Frederick Hudson’s works (The cycle of renewal©) . He proposed that each aspect of our life goes through a perpetual cycle of renewal.